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Hey everyone,
A brief overview....
I was working as a manager for a training provider in Manchester and left due to stress in August. I applied for a new job and got it, but my previous employer stated in their reference that " they would not hire me again as I threatened to resign a few times and in their opinion, I cannot handle pressure". The new employer said they would get back to me once they had discussed this reference. They came back the next day and the offer still stood, but it would be with a 6 month review to see how I handle pressure. I could feel that they were disappointed in my ability and worried about offering me a position. I took some time and decided that I shouldn't take the new offer and I declined the job offer. It was embarrassing for me professionally and that I should be treated with suspicion with 20 years experience.
The nitty gritty....
I was put under extreme pressure in my previous job and it was constant stress. I suffer from a heart condition that can be affected by stress (I didn't declare this however but I did tell colleagues) and my brother died in tragic circumstances a few months before I left the company so I was naturally under stress and had a lot of issues to deal with following a bereavement (I also lost my father in late 2018) I was employed for around 6 months. I felt constantly under stress and had to deal with a heavy workload over the summer which culminated in my resignation as, frankly, I had had enough of feeling like I was about to have a stroke every day. I stated that my health was more important in my resignation letter and the company accepted it.
I am pretty angry that my former employer has had a go at me in the reference knowing that I left for health reasons, and that I was under a lot of pressure with 2 immediate family deaths in the space of 6 months. I am not happy that they brought up the fact that I threatened to resign a couple of times (which was true as the place was a pressure cooker) but that they added that I can't cope with pressure which is making a presumption surely? No one goes to work to face stress and pressure and knowing that I was bereaved twice in 6 months, surely my employer had a duty of care to prevent more stress?
The employer has a reputation for treating its staff badly and the director holds grudges. I am really worried that future references will continue to state what they have said and it will harm my chances of getting myself back on track. I feel like I am being punished for standing up for my health. I know it's a hassle when staff threaten to walk but as a manager, I see it as my duty to try and mitigate some of the stress and keep them. I honestly didn't want to threaten to resign but you can only take so much!!
Thanks
Any advice would be helpful.
A brief overview....
I was working as a manager for a training provider in Manchester and left due to stress in August. I applied for a new job and got it, but my previous employer stated in their reference that " they would not hire me again as I threatened to resign a few times and in their opinion, I cannot handle pressure". The new employer said they would get back to me once they had discussed this reference. They came back the next day and the offer still stood, but it would be with a 6 month review to see how I handle pressure. I could feel that they were disappointed in my ability and worried about offering me a position. I took some time and decided that I shouldn't take the new offer and I declined the job offer. It was embarrassing for me professionally and that I should be treated with suspicion with 20 years experience.
The nitty gritty....
I was put under extreme pressure in my previous job and it was constant stress. I suffer from a heart condition that can be affected by stress (I didn't declare this however but I did tell colleagues) and my brother died in tragic circumstances a few months before I left the company so I was naturally under stress and had a lot of issues to deal with following a bereavement (I also lost my father in late 2018) I was employed for around 6 months. I felt constantly under stress and had to deal with a heavy workload over the summer which culminated in my resignation as, frankly, I had had enough of feeling like I was about to have a stroke every day. I stated that my health was more important in my resignation letter and the company accepted it.
I am pretty angry that my former employer has had a go at me in the reference knowing that I left for health reasons, and that I was under a lot of pressure with 2 immediate family deaths in the space of 6 months. I am not happy that they brought up the fact that I threatened to resign a couple of times (which was true as the place was a pressure cooker) but that they added that I can't cope with pressure which is making a presumption surely? No one goes to work to face stress and pressure and knowing that I was bereaved twice in 6 months, surely my employer had a duty of care to prevent more stress?
The employer has a reputation for treating its staff badly and the director holds grudges. I am really worried that future references will continue to state what they have said and it will harm my chances of getting myself back on track. I feel like I am being punished for standing up for my health. I know it's a hassle when staff threaten to walk but as a manager, I see it as my duty to try and mitigate some of the stress and keep them. I honestly didn't want to threaten to resign but you can only take so much!!
Thanks
Any advice would be helpful.
