• Welcome to the LegalBeagles Consumer and Legal Forum. If this is your first visit to LegalBeagles and you need assistance then you can ask a question here;
    Create a Thread
    Please Register to get the most out of the forum. Registration is free and only needs a username and email address.
    REGISTER
    Please do not post your full name, reference numbers or any identifiable details on the forum.

Sparkie

Collapse
Loading...
X
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • Sparkie1723
    started a topic Sparkie

    Sparkie

    Sunday Margaret just went and dis appeared ...I was cooking her evening meal and she was gone in the blink of an eye..........luckily we found here nearly a mile away ...ALL the family out in all directions .......when found ...she was totally disorientated and confused.
    She had her 6 month assessment carried out today and the only concern the assessor was concerned about was the fact she does this...........I now .have to fit an alarm on the doors now to give me a warning if she goes off again I can't lock her in ....................But we were told if the police get involved in finding her they would consider it a waste of police time................they would consider having her sectioned ...........not having that in any way.............not going to happen.................NO WAY.
    Serious steps will be taken to prevent that.................NO ONE knows what it is really like.........hoping on some restitution from our claim to give us a little boost to our finances to use to make the quality of her life better..........it will only get worse now in my opinion
    Tags: None

  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Tory benefits cuts started already............So I would like to thank all people who vote/voted Tory for those cuts ( Like B****y Hell).
    Had a letter from the DWP yesterday saying that the amount they will be paying towards the interest on our First Mortgage is being reduced by 18,68 a month as from 19th June.
    Isn't that good of that so called Prime Minister?
    But then that is one promise they kept................................. hit the people on benefits such as Pension Credit.
    If I was Saint Teresa, I'd change my name.

    Sparkie
    Last edited by Sparkie1723; 11th June 2017, 10:29:AM.

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Had a hectic day yesterday M's Daughter Kim had taken her Mum out for a drive to New Brighton. I got a call from Kim saying she had been forced to stop as the temp gauge had shot off the scale and she could smell something was not right.
    The grand son came and picked me up and I found that a small water hose had split, it was in a very awkward position All water had been lost M was so agitated at not being able to move so we had to bring her back home and take some water back with us and filled it up with water, and I had to coax the car back home, by leaving the cap of the pressurised filler tank so that the pressure would not force the water out too quickly, Luckily it was only about a mile from home.

    Got the car home and waited for it to cool down so that it was cool enough to work on anyway fixed it in about an a hr or so.

    Good job I had been in the motor trade for 50years or so....... Still not being as supple as I was it was still a very awkward job....... the hose was hidden under the intake manifold an other coolant hoses.
    Kims own car is in the garage having 500 worth of work done so she has had our car last night today and tomorrow as she has to get to work her shifts are 3 days on and 3 days off, so I had to fix it quick, and when she is off she still helps me looking after her Mum.
    No peace for the wicked I suppose. But having two daughters like we have is a gift as I've said before
    Would have cost quite a bit of money if I had not been in the trade.
    Last edited by Sparkie1723; 24th February 2017, 09:29:AM.

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    The help and support I'm getting from Margarets 2 daughters ( I class them as mine anyway) is absolutely marvellous takes an enormous load off me giving me more and more free time, if all families who had close ones with dementia like M did half as much as these two do the life of the person with dementia would be so much better M is much much more happy in herself and has been for a long time now , right at this moment in time she is siting with Kim watching TV and having a good laugh with Kim watching " some load of rubbish"
    It is so heart warming listening to them.
    I am such a lucky one in this respect, having daughters like them.

    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Haven't posted much of late nothing of importance to post till now, Pt as most will know is handling the settlement arrangements with Black Horse who have put forward an amount they will pay us under a confidentiality agreement.
    This is due to be concluded in the next week or so hopefully.
    This morning Margaret received a CCA arrears notice from Black Horse collections dept, this has not only caused me some hassle and more frustration...................but Margaret still has some things branded in her head and the Black Horse sign is one of them.............and the fact of the matter she can STILL read quite well.................................... as soon as she saw this Black Horse letter even though she did not understand it fully she knew arears was not a good word and I can tell you all it sent her completely off her rocker to put it mildly...........never had such a problem with her.................................... she has now exhausted herself and just lay down on the settee and has gone to sleep as if to block this from her mind.

    I nearly had to call the emergency mental team ..........Black Horse are Still being B******s
    Sparkie
    Last edited by Sparkie1723; 7th January 2017, 15:21:PM.

    Leave a comment:


  • enaid
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    That's the trouble with equipment and adaptions, the OT comes round assesses what's needed, orders it and a chap comes round and fixes it or drops it off. you are then left to your own devices.IMHO the OT should do regular inspections to see the equipment is both helpful and is being used properly. Bit naff really in the days of health and safety madness things like this slip the net purely for costs sake.

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Originally posted by charitynjw View Post
    Hi mate

    Glad that all's well; it could have been a lot worse.
    Wishing M a swi.......er, speedy recovery.
    & keep a paper trail of evidence. (Why do I feel I'm trying to teach Granny to suck eggs, lol?!)
    You nearly used the full S word then charity........be careful real swearing is banned you know.

    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Originally posted by enaid View Post
    Hi sparkie, pleased things seem to be going ok. Not quite sure what kind of toilet extension you have been given or why it would suddenly just come away as seems to have happened. Did it move as M was trying to get up ? whatever reason it's not good and needs addressing. Falls are one of the worst things that can happen to knock any ones confidence let alone a Dementia sufferer. I suggest when it is repaired and checked over properly it is agreed it is the right adaption for Ms needs.
    Yes it is hard work and no matter how wide your shoulders are do not for a minute believe they are wide enough to take everything that comes your way.
    All the best sparkie xx
    Thanks enaid,
    Yes it cane adrift as she was trying to get up, its all plastic even the clips are plastic but oly one each side there isn't one at the front, Our GP said its not safe and not good enough .......he is pushing a few buttons ....he has been M's GP for over 39 years and knows her very well and is truly concerned that this could happen again if something is not done about it.
    I watch M extra closely now,,,,,,,,,,, as I should have done if I had it would never have happened, she gets a bit agitated then otherwise she is doing OK
    But she still has some of her pride left she is not happy I watch her like I do when she goes to the Loo.
    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • enaid
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Hi sparkie, pleased things seem to be going ok. Not quite sure what kind of toilet extension you have been given or why it would suddenly just come away as seems to have happened. Did it move as M was trying to get up ? whatever reason it's not good and needs addressing. Falls are one of the worst things that can happen to knock any ones confidence let alone a Dementia sufferer. I suggest when it is repaired and checked over properly it is agreed it is the right adaption for Ms needs.
    Yes it is hard work and no matter how wide your shoulders are do not for a minute believe they are wide enough to take everything that comes your way.
    All the best sparkie xx

    Leave a comment:


  • charitynjw
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Hi mate

    Glad that all's well; it could have been a lot worse.
    Wishing M a swi.......er, speedy recovery.
    & keep a paper trail of evidence. (Why do I feel I'm trying to teach Granny to suck eggs, lol?!)

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Originally posted by dogtired View Post
    Oh how aweful hope she recovers xxx
    Thanks dogtired, She is fine and her usual mostly happy self, she has her moments of turmoil but she's OK.

    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • dogtired
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Oh how aweful hope she recovers xxx

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Haven't posted on here lately because things have been much much better all round, but yesterday had a bit of an upset ...........I had just started to do Margie's breakfast and she went to the loo, ( we have a loo and shower downstairs as well) she manages that quite well but I heard a hell of a bang she had tried to get up of the loo ( we have one of those toilet extensions supplied by the welfare) Its one of the latest its red in colour because it has been discovered that red is the last colour dementure sufferers remember .
    Any way the clips holding it on are plastic and it had come unclipped and she fell on to her right side and banged her temple against the wall. her head come up the size of an egg ( NO exaggeration) .

    Hurt her pretty bad......................hurt the bottom of her spine as well she's getting too old for knocks like this.
    Called the doctor out to get her checked out.........he came and said she was fine and checked her skull to feel if she could have caused a crack but all OK when I told him how she did he said let me have a look at the seat.
    He immediately said it was not safe and he would contact the welfare and tell them we wanted a more secure piece of equipment.
    So she is OK swelling has gone down a lot but she tells me it hurts poor soul......she doesn't remember how she did it that's the worst about it.
    Even thought things are 100% better its still B******y hard work, but I've got wide shoulders, I was only 15 ft away from the toilet when she crashed off the seat
    Just letting peeps know how she is doing.
    Thanks
    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • Sparkie1723
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Things are much better all round .........there is a care package in place where we have a companion who comes and sees to M's needs for two days one week and one the following 10.00 am to 6.00 pm she is 26 and is very experienced in cases like Margaret.............she also sleeps over night 2 nights a week to give me a break to have an undisturbed sleep. should M have one of her restless roaming all night episodes. She takes care of that.
    Margarets eldest daughter Kim sleeps over on the nights Stacey the carer can't so overall the load off me has been lifted considerably.
    We think that we have got her medication well balanced ............and Margaret is much happier in herself all round which I feel so much happier about ............if everyone had a family like I have................what a belting life they would have.......God Bless our girls.....and Thank You everyone on L/B who has and is giving me their support.

    Sparkie

    Leave a comment:


  • CYNthesys
    replied
    Re: Sparkie

    Having experienced much the same I really feel it for you Sparkie. #
    Keep strong
    xx

    Leave a comment:

View our Terms and Conditions

LegalBeagles Group uses cookies to enhance your browsing experience and to create a secure and effective website. By using this website, you are consenting to such use.To find out more and learn how to manage cookies please read our Cookie and Privacy Policy.

If you would like to opt in, or out, of receiving news and marketing from LegalBeagles Group Ltd you can amend your settings at any time here.


If you would like to cancel your registration please Contact Us. We will delete your user details on request, however, any previously posted user content will remain on the site with your username removed and 'Guest' inserted.

Announcement

Collapse

INFORMATION

Find family law specialists that offer fixed fee services on our sister site, JustBeagle...

justbeagle screenshot

Find a Law Firm NOW


See more
See less

Court Claim ?

Guides and Letters
Loading...



Search and Compare fixed fee legal services and find a solicitor near you.

Find a Law Firm


Working...
X