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  • advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

    Hello.
    Apologies for the long-winded message, but I would like some help and advice.
    My.partner decided he wanted to end.our long-term relationship, and is.now sleeping in another part of the house. (not married)
    He became emotionally involved with a woman before the breakup, and started seeing her straight away.
    This happened nearly 3 months ago.
    We have a 9 year old son.
    The house is mortgaged, with both of our names on it.

    Towards the end and even more so now, he has been very emotionally,psychologically and financially abusive.he was also very controlling.

    He has been seeing the other woman most nights straight after coming home from work, and stays at hers for at least 3 nights a week.
    I have been attempting to set up regular weekends, where one of us has responsibility, then the next week we swap.
    He is still trying to control what I do.with my son on my weekend with him, telling me I cant do that or this, or if I wanted/needed to go out, I was being irresponsible on 'palming him off on someone else'
    My questions are these

    1- does he have the right to dictate what I do on my weekend with my son? (I look after him ALL week,up for school etc)
    2-Is he within his rights to claim I am an unfit mother by saying if I had a night/day out on my weekend, I am being irresponsible?
    3- constant barrage of emotional and psychological abuse, is there anything I can do as It is making me ill?

    Again, apologies for the longwinded post.
    I have an appointment with my local solicitors as I urgently need some clarity.

    To put it simply.. Can my ex dictate what I do on my weekend with our son?
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  • #2
    Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

    simple answer ... no! He has no right to dictate to you what you do with your child; or for that matter what you do on your 'weekend off'. However, this situation will be making it stressful for everyone
    • have you separate finances?
    • is there any way of you moving (with the child) to a new property? Or of your ex moving out?
    • is the house owned or rented?
    • in your name / his name / both?
    Debt is like any other trap, easy enough to get into, but hard enough to get out of.

    It doesn't matter where your journey begins, so long as you begin it...

    recte agens confido

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    • #3
      Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

      The house is owned and mortgaged, in both of our names.
      I have my own bank.account.
      I cant afford to move out at the minute, but I am putting my name down in the council register.

      Hopefully He will move in with his fancy woman sooner rather than later and never come back.. !
      (previously advised by C.A. that he cant make me sell the home, but also he has the right to walk.back in whenever he wants to &#128544

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      • #4
        Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

        What a selfish, bullying so-and-so!
        Agree with Kati, absolutely, he has no right to control your life or your time with your son. If time off to go out were a sign of unfit parenting then there would be few "fit" parents in the world.
        If he is emotionally abusing you then it might be worth a chat with a solicitor specialising in family law as to the cleanest way through this, the joint mortgage being a slight complication.
        Many on here have been through similar situations, so hang on in there and you will get excellent help and support.
        Good luck x :hug:

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        • #5
          Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

          Thankyou both xxx I feel much better now x
          I was incredulous to say the least when he tried to say that I was being irresponsible x

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          • #6
            Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

            Hi Manda, did you get everything sorted?

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            • #7
              Re: advice needed.r.e. relationship breakdown

              Originally posted by PablaSolicitors View Post
              Hi Manda, did you get everything sorted?
              The thread a year old and nothing more has been posted.

              nem

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